The Mental Health thread

[Parkins left foot]

It's more brought home what a fucking waste of space I am. I don't do anything useful. I don't bring anything to anyone's life. I genuinely might as well not be here, it's existing for existing's sake.

I'd rather not right now in all honesty.

Dan that's really not true - we all bring something to the table

Your writing skills amaze me - something I really cannot do.

You have my number if you need it - am here (as where else am I going)

 

[Keef]

You bring love to your other half, that can never be underestimated, you're a great writer, we're all feeling shit at the minute, it's the short grey days that do it, Spring is just around the corner, bursts of colour, scents of flowers, brighter days, bit warmer.
We'd miss you on here, hang in there man.

 

[Tony Towner]

It's more brought home what a fucking waste of space I am. I don't do anything useful. I don't bring anything to anyone's life. I genuinely might as well not be here, it's existing for existing's sake.

I'd rather not right now in all honesty.

This is why you should

https://twitter.com/x/status/1344677805628522497

That and you being one of my 3 Twitter followers

 

[PPB]

I'd had a particularly stressful 'family' Sunday and hadn't had chance to wind down before Monday started and so was on edge all day.

I'm starting to learn more about anxiety and how it's triggered and the impacts it can have, I kind of knew today was coming if that makes sense?

Im learning all the time how to deal with anxiety and just accepting that sometimes I won't be at my best, but also accepting that it's ok to not be at your best felt like a huge step forward for me.

Thanks for the kind words

This is why you should

https://twitter.com/x/status/1344677805628522497

That and you being one of my 3 Twitter followers

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Ach, she's all that keeps me going most days. I actually don't know why she bothers but I suppose that's not my problem.

 

[Paddingtonwolf]

Make the most of it! Celebrate it! Delight in it! You have found a great companion and that is huge. Yes, this few months are going to suck, but look at what is there at the end to look forward to.

(obvs you have to bump into us too, so sorry about that

 

[lemonjelly]

Ach, she's all that keeps me going most days. I actually don't know why she bothers but I suppose that's not my problem.

It is your problem, but a blessed one to have.

As per tredders posting, we're almost a year into living in a pretty shit way. We've all got to do our utmost to take care of ourselves, and each other as best we can. Soon, we will somehow be able to say "thanks", and "I've missed you" in person again. Thats what is keeping me going at the moment.
I am not sure what state I would be in, were it not for mrs jelly.

 

[Premier Quality]

Just bear in mind we’re over the hump and on the downward straight. As the vaccine gets rolled out further, life will start getting back to normal.

things will improve mate. Focus on the things you can control, and set yourself a couple of things you want to achieve.

ive started HIIT’s again to try and stop my back from hurting for example, and be fitter to play veterans football when lockdown ends - exercise helps with a lot of things.

take care of yourself.

 

[Haggstone]

My brain seems to have shut down since November and I’ve started to struggle with work. Missing deadlines, having little or no resilience to daily setbacks and not being able to concentrate. Our ten month old hardly went to nursery through much of the November/December lock down which must have grounded me down. Id have been in a bit of a mess I think had the nurseries closed this time around.

Strangley I also feel anxious about what post lock down might be like, my son was born three weeks before the first lockdown so I’m not sure how ready I am at being a parent when things start to go back to normal. I worry that I’ve become almost institutionalised with no point of reference.

 

[Haggstone]

Just to add, writing things down as above has me feeling a little better. Should probably do that more.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Outside instances don't come into it for me. I've got bipolar disorder, it doesn't take any notice of whether I've got the loveliest girlfriend in the world (I do) or anything else.

Doesn't help that through circumstances and weather I've not seen her since Christmas Eve. But we are fixing that soon.

 

[lemonjelly]

Just to add, writing things down as above has me feeling a little better. Should probably do that more.

one alternative is writing down what you've achieved each day, even just 2-3 things. better than focussing on what could have been.

 

[Wolvensam]

Have found the last couple of days really difficult. I'm a long term sufferer of anxiety and had a depressive episode in 2016 where I had CBT and took sertraline for about 18 months. In the first lockdown I went back on the tablets for about 2 weeks but found they made me feel worse rather than better so binned them off - it wasn't the doctor's fault, I was suffering and I guess medication is a go to when the patient has past mental health issues. I've just got no get up and go right now, I don't want to leave the house as I'm terrified, but I feel so aggravated and restless. My job was going so well before the first lockdown and before this one and it is all grinding to a halt again and sucking the momentum out.

Just ugh. Fed up.

 

[Tredman]

Have found the last couple of days really difficult. I'm a long term sufferer of anxiety and had a depressive episode in 2016 where I had CBT and took sertraline for about 18 months. In the first lockdown I went back on the tablets for about 2 weeks but found they made me feel worse rather than better so binned them off - it wasn't the doctor's fault, I was suffering and I guess medication is a go to when the patient has past mental health issues. I've just got no get up and go right now, I don't want to leave the house as I'm terrified, but I feel so aggravated and restless. My job was going so well before the first lockdown and before this one and it is all grinding to a halt again and sucking the momentum out.

Just ugh. Fed up.

I know it’s tough and incredibly difficult to do but try and get out of the house, even just for 5 mins. I’ve been working from home since February and got really down by June. Going out, early morning at 6 for me, for a run, walk or cycle keeps me sane. Plus at an early time you don’t see any people.

 

[Templeton Peck]

'We’ll see if he can handle it': Guardiola says Foden must keep high standards

Pep Guardiola believes Phil Foden’s devastating display against Liverpool has heightened expectations of the Manchester City forward

www.theguardian.com

Very interesting comments. Most of our players aren't top class and the ones that are fade quickly. Rooney wasn't the same player after 2006. Reading Calvin's 'State of play' and I'm wondering how much the issue is mental rather than technical and how destructive British culture is in particular. Emotionally repressed, ego driven, weakness is failure, stiff upper lip etc.

 

[Paul]

Do you think that's purely British Culture ?

 

[Templeton Peck]

Do you think that's purely British Culture ?

I think it's incredibly complicated to be honest but it might be tied up with with our class system and history of empire. It's mainly the English that get pissed and smash up town centres. There's also a lot of bravado in England whereby we tend to like those who 'just get on with it' and want people like John Terry as captain.

 

[AndyWolves]

There was an article from Stephen Warnock which I wish I could find. He basically lost all his confidence until he started working with a sports phycologist, the long and the short of it was he ended up switching his mindset from playing to avoid the boo's (I e. Playing it safe, taking no risks) to playing for the cheers - he said he played the best football of his career whilst working with this guy.

Also, when he was at villa MON took each player into his office and told them how rubbish they were - presumably looking for a reaction. Warnock said he went from feeling 10 feet tall to feeling like a mouse. No doubt this approach would have worked for some players but everyone is different.

It's really interesting because I think it shows the best managers will be the ones who understand what makes each individual tick. This obviously also applies outside of football.

 

[Tredman]

I think it's incredibly complicated to be honest but it might be tied up with with our class system and history of empire. It's mainly the English that get pissed and smash up town centres. There's also a lot of bravado in England whereby we tend to like those who 'just get on with it' and want people like John Terry as captain.

Think you need to get around the UK (and Europe) a bit more - its defintiely not just an English phenomenom, though perhaps slightly more pronounced.

 

[Templeton Peck]

There was an article from Stephen Warnock which I wish I could find. He basically lost all his confidence until he started working with a sports phycologist, the long and the short of it was he ended up switching his mindset from playing to avoid the boo's (I e. Playing it safe, taking no risks) to playing for the cheers - he said he played the best football of his career whilst working with this guy.

Also, when he was at villa MON took each player into his office and told them how rubbish they were - presumably looking for a reaction. Warnock said he went from feeling 10 feet tall to feeling like a mouse. No doubt this approach would have worked for some players but everyone is different.

It's really interesting because I think it shows the best managers will be the ones who understand what makes each individual tick. This obviously also applies outside of football.

O'Neill was raised by Cloughie so his barometer of acceptable must have been way off!

We need to start getting beyond the 'it didn't do me any harm' bollocks and denying people their humanity just because they get paid a lot to kick a ball.

The culture is definitely changing for the better. I'm hopeful we'll start to see this in imroved tournament performance and of course improved mental health! Southgate has been very good for England when it comes to this kind of thing. Mourinho on the other hand is still stuck in the days of Fergie throwing boots.